Thursday, December 17, 2015

Mental-Health Advocate - Adam

The next Inspiring Warrior on my list is a man I have continuously been impressed by, through his strength and determination and for his desire to help others in their darkest moments.  He has been a bright spot for many different people and I have loved to read about how he has changed their lives and made our world that much better just by being him.

Cheers to Adam and all that he contributes to this beautiful planet.

1.  If you were a box of cereal, what would you be and why?

Definitely Bran Flakes, so nobody would eat me.


2.  What is your perception of the world?

I think we have a lot of potential as a species; potential that's being hindered by out insistence to    value tradition and superstition over science and humanity.

3.  If you could rewrite a part of your history, would you?  Why?

I would rewrite the genocide of the American Indians.  I am a registered native myself (although only a quarter), but the more I learn about the atrocities committed by people we still revere as "heroes", the less proud I am to be an American.

4.  If you were the one survivor of a plane crash, on a tropical island, what would you do first?

Immediately start looking for fresh water!

5.  If you could travel back in time, what advice would you give your teenage self?

I've thought about this a lot, actually.  I would tell myself to start college directly after high school, and bust through it before getting married.

6.  What are you doing in your life to influence the world and/or community?

I do a lot of work in mental-health advocacy.  It's still so misunderstood, and I aim to help in the fight to stamp out stigma.

7.  What would you pick for your last meal on this Earth?

Definitely the buffet at Tucanos.  I really miss that place :(

8.  What is your biggest fear?

Losing one of my children.  No questions asked.

9.  What do you think cats dream about?

I think cats are narcissists, so I guess they probably dream about how wonderful they are.

10.  Who do you admire and why?

Definitely my mom.  She raised 6 kids by herself with next to no money.  Somehow she managed to do this while spending quality time with us and creating a lifetime of memories.  I would be nothing without my mom.

11.  If you could change one thing and one thing only about the people of this world, what would it be?

I would change how inherently stubborn humanity is.

12.  Without naming the actual cookie, describe to us the cookie you love the most?

It has a crisp outer shell with a gooey middle, filled chocolate chips and almonds.

13.  We are always making choices.  Are you choosing for your story or someone else's?

I think it's a combination of both.  Maybe I'm trying too hard to align the story of those closest to me, especially my kids.

14.  You win the jackpot.  One hundred million dollars.  What would be the first three things you would do with this money?

Buy my mom a house.  Pay off all debt.  Hire a top-rated financial advisor.

15.  What are six words the describe you the best?

Impulsive.  Creative.  Loving.  Impatient.  Interested.  Depressed.

16.  What drives you to be better than you were yesterday?

Knowing I may not be around tomorrow.

17.  Where do you find peace in the hectic world we live in?

I find peace in the bedroom of my kids at night as we read stories.  It's a really nice way to escape all the insanity.

18.  What does success mean to you?

It used to mean making money, but now I look at success in terms of finding value and meaning in life, and chasing whatever is that constitutes those things.

19.  When was the last time you laughed so hard it hurt?  Do you remember why you laughed so hard and if so, can you describe that moment?  If you cannot remember why, can you describe the feeling?

There is nothing better than that feeling of your sides splitting and your head bursting during a good laugh.  I think the last time I laughed that hard was when my son (then 6) was in the bathroom of a local grocery store.  It was packed, so I was in a stall and he took one of the kids urinals.  Before I could finish he crawled underneath the door, and yelled, "Holy cow! Your wiener is huge! It looks like a giant fish!"  I tried to tell him to be quiet, knowing there were several people still in there, when suddenly he cups his hands to his mouth and says, "Attention we have an escaped fish, everyone."  I couldn't stop laughing.  My son is awesome.

20.  Where (social media, website) can others connect with you?

You can check out my website for the videos we do (and are continuing to do) for mental-health awareness at:                              

Friday, December 4, 2015

Be The Change

I have been in a rather strange place this week.  Whenever I arrive in this place, I watch.  I become that person on Facebook who just see's.  I become the lady in the store who watches the people around her, not out of fear, but out of curiosity.  If that makes sense...

My heart hurts for the mass shootings that have occurred in our world this past month.  My heart pains for the innocents who have had to endure the fear and violence that so many selfish human beings have brought to their front door.

I want to believe most people on our beautiful Earth feel the same way as I do.  I want to believe anyone I know wants this madness to end.

I have these ginormous feelings inside me right now and I have so much on my mind that I am afraid what I say will not make an ounce of sense.  Bear with my maddening speech as I sift through my thoughts.

Naturally, human beings tend to want to help one another.  Right?  I see it all over the place and it makes my soul feel connected to the rest of you nutty humans.

Take one of our current world events which has many scrambling to create a safe haven for the Syrian refugees.  I have listened to arguments on both sides about the refugees.  Take them in... Save them... Help them out... Turn them away... Don't trust them... It isn't our problem.

Ughhhhh... I hate it when others say it is not our problem.  Of course it is our problem.  We are all in this together.  Look around you... none of us our getting out of this life alive, so we might as well make this world better for everyone who comes after us.  This giant rock hurdling through space is OUR problem, including everything and everyone on it.

However, I do not completely agree with bringing in the Syrian refugees.  The biggest and most significant reason... Trojan horse anyone.  Are we really that gullible?

These terrorists are not a fucking joke.  They aren't stupid either.

I would love to help out the refugees who are truly running for their lives.  I would stand with them and I would be their ally.  However, I will be the first to turn them away if it puts my family and my friends at risk.  I love those knuckleheads too much to be outsmarted by murderers and rapists and human beings who have lost their connection with us as a whole.

Am I being unreasonable?  Maybe.

But there has to be another way.

My heart goes out to the people who are suffering through this.  I wish I knew the answers.  I wish I had a way to make this work for everyone.

That being said... what can we do?

What options do we have?

Do we really take the chance that these terrorists won't sneak in with the refugees?

Me... I have always believed human beings are innately good.  I have always believed most everyone can be saved from being a monster.  I want to believe the best in everyone I meet, but am I living in a fairy tale?  Life has proven to me that humans are greedy and selfish and although many work hard in being better, there are many more who do not care.  Seeing that proof with my own two eyes makes this situation difficult.

I am not religious.  I do not believe Jesus was my savior.  I do not believe anyone was my savior.  However, I am spiritual and I am a humanist.  I believe in treating others the way you would want to be treated AND furthermore, I believe in treating others the way THEY would want to be treated.  

Being the season of the holidays regardless of belief, it brings to the surface the idea that we as human beings have the ability to be giving... to be loving... to be connected... to be ONE.  We are all here.  We HAVE to figure out this problem together and stop relying on our corrupted governments to make the decisions for us.

Evolving our way of thinking is not only a necessity, but a priority.

WE are ONE.  We are all connected.  It is not a hard concept to wrap your mind around.  We deserve to stop fighting amongst ourselves.  We deserve to stand up and be the powerful and awesome human beings we are capable of being.

Let's celebrate our differences, instead of fight about them.  Who cares what religion, what nationality, what race, what gender, etc. a person is.  The number one thing I care about is how you treat me.  Dr. Robert Michaels says it so eloquently:

“When you leave this school and go onto bigger and better things, and your life becomes the life of an adult with adult ideas about social justice, and you have to have that inner peace — the kind of tranquility of mind where you can say, ’I don’t care if you’re black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you.’ You will find that the difference between a happy life and a life of bitterness and struggle can be as simple as that, my friends, and that is a lesson I will leave you with today.” [Robert Michaels MD – 2007 – Graduation Speaker- Name of school withheld]

My questions above are still valid questions.  I am wanting to evolve my own thinking and I am always open to intelligent discussions.  "Intelligent" being the key word.  If it drops down to being an asshole, I am no longer interested in what a person has to say.

We all have the ability to be better.  Even the assholes.

XXXX - Niki

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Genuine To The Core - Kern

I met this woman a few years back during a time where I was searching for answers.  On life.  On death.  On how to truly love people.  I found friendship in her on this one particular night and it was a time I will not forget.  She is not only friendly and cheerful, but she is kind to others no matter where they are in life.  She treats others the way she would want to be treated and she loves with a wide and open heart.  I admire her for her bravery, for her openness and for her desire to make our world a better place.

Today I get to show off my friend, Kern.  She is an enchanting lady, full of life and love and going over her answers to my questions was a gift to me.  Cheers to this genuine lady.  Enjoy!

1.  If you had thirty seconds to describe yourself, i.e. who you are, what would you say? 

I am girl born in Wyoming to parents who loved me. And lucky me. And from life experiences, I have become a feminist, a lover, a friend, a mother, a jokester, a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, wants to save the souls of humans through kindness.  I am a secular humanist and only have the energy to care about how humans live now, this life. I have zero energy to give to any thought or ideas about a God or Gods and what happens after death. I laugh at everything, because humor is what I think will save me in most of my saddest moments. 

2.  What is the one accomplishment in your life that you are most proud of? Why? 

I am proud of escaping the bubble and complete mind-controlling view of the world of Mormonism. It would have been the death of me had I not broken free. I don’t know that I am proud of that. Can one be proud of something like that? I don’t think so. I’m not. It just is. I once took a photo though of a sunset that still, to this day, takes my breath away. I am proud of that.

3.  If you could trade places with one person for a week, famous or not, living or dead, real or fictional, who would it be and why? 

I wouldn’t trade places. Ever. That is one week I can’t get back of being me. I’d not want to miss a moment. If I could sit and talk with someone, however, it would be Carl Sagan.  We’d smoke a bowl and discuss the universe.

4.  What is your current career and how did you choose it? 

I have a career of taking photos and creating art. I work at a desk for money. It’s not a career though. It just pays the bills and is completely uninteresting. I love the company. The owners are my friends and I am loyal to their cause and product. But it’s not a career. Life is my career. And I create art.

5. What are some examples of your work?   

Landscapes. Sunsets. Photos of humans smiling. Photos of humans crying. Pictures of my son dressed in drag. Photos of my cat and my dog and of a random Tuesday night.  If you care, you can search for Kernography Instagram.  I also take a lot of selfies of self expression. I take them of myself, because they are raw emotion that I can draw out of myself and share. I like that. I think maybe it could inspire someone else to feel and want to do it as well. It’s quite liberating.

6.  What are some things you are doing to change the world for the better? 

I carry my groceries bagless to the car. I don’t flush after every pee. I work in the dark or wear my shoes till they have holes. I give and serve and take photos to remember it all by. And I love and a kind and forgiving and try to not push my beliefs on others. Live by example, I guess.  Hopefully that will make the world better.

7.  If you were a tree, where would you want to be planted and why? 

I’d want to be a sycamore tree because they are just fucking beautiful. And plant me by the Spiral Jetty art piece in Utah.  I want a sign created and left there for my children and lovers to see.  Plant me as a tree (or spread my ashes ) and the sign will say, “This is what I wanted to show you.”  It is the most beautiful place on earth, that I have yet to see.

8.  Describe a crisis you have faced in life?  

Deciding to stay in my marriage of 21 years or leaving it and starting a new path. Both choices seemed hopeless. Both held pain and fear and all the things. Both seemed like the wrong choice. Both could go fuck themselves.  That was my attitude about it.  It kept me awake all day and night. It almost killed me. Literally. I don’t wish that experience upon anyone.

9.  How did you resolve the crisis and what did you learn from it?  

I had to make a choice.  And so I did. And upon making it, I chose to stick to it and then do everything I’d normally do…do the opposite of that. I figured that I got to the point I was by doing what I’d always done. So, it made sense to me to do the opposite.  I have found life on the other side of that choice, however, and the path that I am currently on is quite beautiful and breathtaking. There are stumbles and hardships, but most certainly, I feel I made the right choice and would not change it.  I no longer do the opposite, however.  I trust myself again to make good choices and to love completely.  I don’t think my crisis will ever be resolved. It will just be something that I have tried to fix and take care of and manage to the best of my ability. And I am okay with that.  I’ve learned to use my voice…that I even had a voice.  I’ve learned to say what I want, feel, need.  I think that is my most valuable lesson of all.  To use my voice. 

10.  If Hollywood made a movie about your life, whom would you like to see play the lead role? 

Anyone but Kiera Nightly. I just really dislike her acting.  Perhaps Laverne Cox. She’s a strong and gorgeous woman. I want that kind of woman to play me.

11.  If you had six months to live, what would you do? 

Live. I’d fucking live. I’d continue to love who I love; go to bed at night and snuggle up and breathe them in. I’d love my children and make them more breakfasts in bed, I suppose.  But really, I’m happy and grateful and content right now.  Sure there are hardships and things I’d like to change.  My biggest worry in my life is the future.  Where will I be and who will I be with. My family ties have grown extremely small over the past year, and so the fear of being alone is real for me. But, with 6 months that fear leaves and I’ve got the best 6 months ever ahead. And I suppose, now that I’m typing this, that really should be how I view my future, isn’t it?  That I have the best __months ahead of me and so just let go and fucking live.  Yep.  Well done questions. I’ve just grown a wee bit.

12.  What are your greatest treasures in this life? 

My ability to change. It really is. Change is hard, and I think I handle it well. I  mean, I struggle, but in the end, I accept it and work through it and then own it and finally, celebrate it.  And of course, getting to be loved and to love.  Love is the most heartbreaking thing. I mean, it has caused my heart to be fucking Shattered…little tiny pieces everywhere, pain so extreme that I remember laying on the grass one afternoon. I looked up and took a photo of a lilac flower.  And I imagined just dying, at that moment, and if I did, how beautiful it would be to not feel that pain anymore.  And then I got up and put my feet forward and moved on.  And then, as my heart heals, I find new love that I am so grateful for, so completely and utterly grateful for.  And that feeling is one of having my heart pumped up and celebrated and new.  And THAT feeling is also one of the greatest feelings in the world.  So…after that ramble…love.  Love is my greatest treasure. I seek after it.  I want to give it. That is a beautiful thing.

13.  Life after death or one life to live?  

Nobody knows, and those that do (if there are) aren’t talking.  I don’t believe there is a white god waiting for me to fall into his arms upon my death.  But I don’t claim to know if it is the end, either.  I don’t think about it much. I don’t really give a fuck about it, really.  It doesn’t concern me. I’m not dead.  What concerns me is living now.  I have one life to live right now, so that’s where my focus is. Love and live and give.

14.  If you won 10 million dollars in a lottery, what would you do with it? 

Invest and give. All of it to the proper care and feeding of humans. Especially within the trans and queer community. After a few experiences this fall, I would most certainly find a way to invest and give to the finding of a cure of HIV. It’s a disease that people are so very afraid of, and those who have it are forgotten and treated like they have something that will kill others simply because they are breathing the same air. It’s not true. They are dying. They need love and support. They need kindness. They need a cure.  And they need, most of all, to be treated like the beautiful humans that they are.  All the money would go towards it. I’d also buy a new phone. Because I’m a human after all and I do have a few thoughts about wanting something grand.  I’d get pretty excited about having the latest iPhone to take photos with.

15. What is your perception of the people in this world? 

That people are generally good. I think humans have evolved into being beautiful creatures who respond to self fulfilling prophecies.  Keep telling them they are worthless without a God in the sky to make them perfect, and they can’t rise up and be who they are…already perfect universe creations that are perfectly capable and more than willing (wanting, even) to be good just for the sake of  being good, kind, loving, giving, charitable, sacrificing, patient and big hearted.  Tell them they are all those things because they were born and the only reward upon death is the leaving behind a world better for having had their human print left from all the goodness they have done.  Tell them this, teach children this, and suddenly you will have a world of humans screaming out to be amazing, rather than a world of humans scared to just be who they are for fear of being destroyed by an unseen God. 

16. If you were the only survivor of a plane crash on a deserted island, what would be the first thing you would do and why?  

I would have a seat and consider what just happened and know that there was no big meaning, no hidden message, no grand plan.  But I would sit and listen, for hours or days, I am sure, to my inner voice. She would have much to say, I think, on her life and what it has meant up to the point where taking her last breath had a real possibility of not being heard, seen, or felt by another human again.  I mean, what else would there be to do, as a 1st item on a list of “not much to do because everyone is dead and you are stranded on a deserted island.”  I’d have my thoughts to sort through. Nothing more.

17. Wonder woman and Cat woman are having a drink together at a bar.  What kind of friends do you envision these women to be and why? 

I cannot see them as friends so long as they both have an identity other than what others have created for them.  As if cat woman is just nothing other than someone who fights “bad guys?” And Wonder woman. She is dressed for the beach. And yet we are supposed to take her seriously?  Did they pick out their costumes? Do they even have first and last names? What kinds of books to do they read, what kind of music do their hearts beat to?  Do they know themselves? Do we know anything about these women, other than they fight crime? Perhaps if I researched them both, I might find out a tidbit or two. But I doubt I’d ever actually get to know them.  And if they can’t know themselves, how can they be friends with each other. Well, they can be chit chat friends, I suppose, and share make-up tips.

18. What is one thing you want to leave this world and why?  

Art. I want to just leave art. Art changes lives. It is the carrier of thought. It begs others to stop and ponder, think and rest. It inspires. It lasts forever, in some way, because art is a creation. Creations never die. They might be destroyed, burned, thrown out.  But the energy it puts out, to even one soul…that lives forever.

19. What are any website links or pages you would like to share with the world?  I.e. your own work, other people and activities you are passionate about, etc.

Google is the God of this century.  It has all the answers, but won’t do it for you. You have to read what you find, research what you think you believe or don’t believe, and if you want to find my art, it has all the answers.  I like to laugh. It’s my favorite thing. And I like to learn others opinions and ideas.  So yeah. Those websites.  And oh, what the hell….

Because really, at the end of this list….it’s what I wanted to show you.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

A Universe Full Of Secrets

Listening to the ocean brings out something powerful inside me.  This is why I want to be near the ocean.  When I am close to the sounds of the ocean and I hear the sounds of nature in all directions, my mind awakens.

Unfortunately, living in Utah I am unable to hear the waves of the ocean hitting the beach, ebbing and flowing into the depths of its shadows.  I get to listen to sounds of nature on my stereo (i.e. phone).  It still soothes me.  My mind awakens.  It does the job until I can physically be near the beautiful ocean.

Who really knows me?

This is something I have thought many times in my life.

I often hear surprise in people's voices or see it in their faces when I tell them about myself.

You don't look like a person who can do all those things, they will say.

- cooking
- baking
- sewing
- crafts
- piano
- singing
- writing

Looks can be deceiving...

I am more than what you see.

I have a love inside me that wants to invite everyone in.

I have a fear inside that keeps most everyone at arms length.

I have loved.

I have hated.

I have had my heart broken.

I have been hurt.

I have hurt others.

I have seen bad things.

I have been scared.

I have feared for my life.

I have felt exhilarated.

I have been overjoyed.

I have felt hopeless.

I have cried until the pain was numb.

I have laughed until it hurt.

I have my story.

Aren't we all a universe full of secrets.  Don't we all have our story's.  We are a beautiful creation, whether by a god or by evolution... it does not matter.  We are here and we all have a story to tell.

Our story is what we leave the moment our body's die.

What do you want your story to be?

The holidays are upon us.  Another year.  Another year where human beings will be crowding into stores, buying gifts and bringing in the holiday cheer.

In the spirit of evolving, remember we all have our story and we are all in this together.


Thursday, November 19, 2015

Bonnie Surie Life Coach

Welcome Bonnie!  It is such a pleasure to get to know people better, especially the ones who have been in my life for as long as I can remember.  Bonnie is an engaging and inspiring woman, who has come leaps and bounds in her life because of her choice to learn from her life lessons instead of allowing them to take her apart.

We all have our challenges, our trials and our let-downs and it amazes me how many people I know in my life who come back up kicking and screaming.  They don't give up the fight, even when most others would say they have every right to.  Bonnie has been an example to me and I love watching her take on the world, giving others the opportunity to have their best life ever.

1.  How would you describe yourself?

I am worldly and LOVE life.  I seek expansion in experience and knowledge of truth and connection to source.  I connect to everything and everyone at a spiritual level.  I feel the life of nature and whisper praise to the tree that trust, if it drops its leaves, new ones will grow as the old ones no longer serve it.  I can't help but see this as a beautiful example to our human existence.  If we trust to let go of what we no longer need, what no longer serves us; the universe will reward us abundantly with greater, but only if we trust at an internal level.

I have been described as steadfast, optimistic, cheerful, wise, passionate, and gifted with wisdom and communication.  I feel I have found some of my gifts.  However, I trust I still have many more to learn of while I continue to develop the ones I have.  I love to have fun, encourage and read to children, laughter, connection, writing.  I love to be spontaneous and try new things.  (It may just become my new favorite thing)

2.  What are your biggest goals and dreams? 

I have a goal card that reads, "I am so happy and grateful now that I am a top, one of a kind, international coach, speaker, and author on Human Potential and the Laws of the Universe.  I have an extraordinary likeminded team by my side to assist me with ANY and ALL business needs that I have.  I easily make $10,000,000 or more net profit with MSI.  I generously donate to children's hospitals paying off accounts anonymously, to the MAKE A WISH foundation, and to humanitarian projects around the world.

3.  Which is better, sweet or sour?  Why?  

I have to be honest, I asked my husband for assistance with this one.  He is a pro with flavors.  He was able to bring to my attention that the body has a physical response to what we eat.  I guess I didn't think about this..?  LOL

Okay, sour I see as a "shock" experience.  It has a tendency to send compulsive shocks to the cheeks causing them to suck in until the eyes have no other choice but bulge from their sockets.  As a result, you begin to tear up and massive goosebumps cover the entire body.  The skin tightens and tenses to prevent leakage from the rest of the tiny holes that cover our sponge like body... LOL

Sweet is like stepping into a hot bath on a cold winter day.  The body instantly covers itself in goosebumps from pleasure vs. shock.  I definitely prefer sweet, it's subtle and comforting.  The body feels more at ease. ;)

4.  What's the biggest misconception about you and why?

That I have it all together..  Life is an ever expansive experience.  As a creator, I see potential in many opportunities; as a result I pick many of them up.  Task management is a weakness of mine that I am working on improving.

5.  What are you passionate about?

Watching people have A-ha moments when I'm coaching or speaking.  I LOVE teaching a new way of thinking that many are foreign to that completely transforms lives.  There isn't a better feeling than the words of those who you have just given a light to, who have been trapped in a small dark room their entire life... Life is beautiful, especially when you learn HOW you are the creator of the results you get in life.  This simple shift in knowledge can change anyone's life.

6.  What's the difference between you and most other people?

Well... Really this is tough for me to say.  We are all unique with strengths and weaknesses.  I suppose the biggest difference is my perspective and awareness I have on life.

7.  If you could travel back in time, what advice would you give to your child self? 

"Little Bonnie, you will struggle only because through the struggles you will discover your gift.  You are SO BEAUTIFUL and absolutely here for a reason.  You're NOT a mistake, you're not alone, and you ARE loved!  You are safe" 

8.  Which Hogwarts house would you belong to?  Gryffindor, Slytherin, Hufflepuff or Ravenclaw?  Why?

I have an honest confession to make... I have watched the movies however, not to the point where I actually know the difference between the houses.  So, I took it upon myself to do some research for this question.  I believe that I would fit well in the Hufflepuff house.  If what I have read is accurate, I belong with them because I am tenacious, loyal, open-minded, giving and good hearted; this what I have read them to be.

9.  What are you doing in your life to influence the world and/or community?

I am teaching others that their way of thinking is expired and it's time to replace it with a better way that will only flood good in their lives as well as the lives they come into contact to.  I think of life as a gigantic puzzle and each human represents a piece of the puzzle.  We can't really see what the real picture is yet, though many have an idea of what they THINK it is.  Regardless of what the real picture is, we all have to touch each other somehow to reveal the picture.  I will touch the pieces around me and influence them to touch the pieces around them.  We're all in this together.

10.  Is there a part of your past that taught you a valuable lesson?  If so, will you tell us your story?

I used to be (about 6 years ago) very manipulative, always trying to get things from other.  I felt that I couldn't get it myself, I didn't know how or didn't have the money.  As the woman I am today, I know that there is no good feeling in making others pity you.  There is NOTHING to gain from this.  There is however, an incredible feeling knowing that everything I have now, I've earned; I DID IT!  The exception to this is a gift of course.  I won't lie, I enjoy unexpected gifts and surprises!

11. Who is your hero and why?

Gosh, who is my hero?  I have never thought of this either... You know, about 5 years ago I read a book called No Matter What by Lisa Nichols.  After I read this book I set all of my passwords to No Matter What B 2015 and made the decision that 2015 was going to be my BIG year.  Lisa inspired me to begin living the way I desired to without limitation.  I began an incredible journey and began to fall in love with myself and life.  In December 2014 I had a moment where I expressed with great passion my desire to help people through my experiences.  I desired to speak, coach, write and travel.  I made the decision to get a coach even though I didn't have the money.  I tried several banks that denied me for a loan.  The last place I called approved me.  I got a loan to pay her $3000.  I was scared but knew I needed to stop tip toeing through life, I was bigger than that.  I needed to get uncomfortable so I could grow and aspire to my truest self.  It dawned on me January 4th when I was putting in my password, that it was 2015; my BIG year!

I have begun coaching, speaking, writing and have traveled to London, Canada, Utah and Arizona.  I have met and now work with Bob Proctor.  The interesting thing about that is, #32 on my 101 goals before I die, reads "meet and work with Bob Proctor."  I write this list after I read No Matter What.  Everyday my life looks more and more like my dream life.

Aside from Lisa, my personal hero would have to be my Dad.  He has immense faith in me and my dream.  He has never stopped encouraging me and is my biggest fan.

12.  If you had one year to live, what would you do?

I would get family pictures taken while experiencing life!  No more traditional "everyone pose" style.  I would get a photographer to follow us around.  Bungee jumping in New Zealand, skydiving, while water rafting, scuba diving, kayaking with whales, and cliff diving and such... After about 6 months or so of living crazy life, I would relax; beach, mountains, and just be with my family.

13.  Do you have any creative ideas that you would like to share with the world?

Everything I am doing is creative self being expressed.  Right now, all my creativity is in the message I share.

14.  What risk would you take if you knew you could not fail?

Well, I suppose I would not be risking anything if I KNEW I couldn't fail... ;)  Keeping life VERY interesting when the physical eye see IMPOSSIBLE is something I naturally do.  I don't see IMPOSSIBLE, I see IM-POSSIBLE.

15.  What animal would best describe you and why?

I would have to say a dolphin.  They're vibrant, intuitive, playful, and harmonious.  I see these characteristics prominent in myself.  When I think of the dolphin, I think of freedom, happiness, and oneness; these are important to me.

16.  What is your biggest strength?

My biggest strength would have to be my radiant smile.  It displays trust, kindness, authenticity, vibrancy and really helps my confidence and my ability to connect with others.  

17.  What kind of friend do you believe yourself to be?

I am the optimistic advisor.  I'm the friend that others go to for new insight on challenging situations.  I often hear my friends say, "what would Bonnie do" or "How would Bonnie explain this?"

 18.  If you had to choose between being Erin in the movie, Erin Brockovich or Elle Woods in the movie, Legally Blonde, who would you choose and why?

Erin Brockovich for sure!  I find her more bold and courageous.

19.  What is your perception of the world?

World... What a fascinating word full of mystery... I believe that everything is as it needs to be if we see the purpose for it or not.  This does not mean that I like everything that I know happens in the world.  I believe we're here to gain experience and to become.  I choose to see and think of beauty, expansion, and creator when I think of the world.

20.  If you could change one thing and one thing only about the people of this world, what would it be and why?

Definitely their way of thinking!  We complain about life and think "this is just the things go for me."  The truth is, we create our life one thought at a time.  We are vibrational beings that attract to us whatever we get emotionally involved with and believe to be true.  The shift needs to be what we're focused on.  If we don't like our current circumstances but continue to dwell on them, we will continue to get MORE of the same circumstances.  We need to dream and think of what it is we desire.  Once we do this, we begin to create new circumstances that reflect our dreams and desires!  Our focus needs to shift!

 21.  We are always making choices.  Are you choosing for your story or for someone else's?

I definitely am making my own choices, ALWAYS... With everything in my life, I know now that it's always been my choice to allow others to influence me and make me feel a certain way.  Or to choose the pictures and words I desire for my autobiography.  It is true that I have to do checks sometimes and ask myself, "am I allowing this person to control me?  Do I really want this?"

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