Saturday, October 22, 2016

Tony Robbins Five Steps To Change

“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” -Mahatma Gandi

Five Steps To Change

  1. See it as it is, not worse than it is.
  2. Get to the real truth and deal with it.
  3. Get a vision and get strong.
  4. Get a role model and learn their strategies.
  5. Give more than you expect to receive.
Tony Robbins asks five questions and these are my answers:

1. What has been one of the toughest times of your life that you made it through?

I married a drug addict. My toughest time was the five years I watched, while he destroyed everything we built, along with himself. I say watched, because no matter what I said and no matter what I did, nothing changed. He stole, he lied, he told me I was crazy, he disappeared, he threw up, he drugged me, he rigged my phone to not turn on, he got our telephone wires cut, he had mafia after him, etc., etc., etc.

2. What pulled you through this crisis?

My children. I had to protect them. Although his fatherhood was never questioned, he put all of our lives in danger, multiple times. I couldn’t turn to anyone for a long time, because I feared their rejection of him. I finally had to make a decision... take back my power or fall with him.

3. What was your life before the crisis?

Before I realized the drug addiction, I was happy. The first six months of our marriage was absolute bliss and joy and I laughed at people when they claimed the first year of marriage was the hardest. At that time, I couldn’t imagine a better relationship.

4. What did you do to turn things around?

I walked away. After his druggie friend called me and told me my husband was a mess and a hazard to everyone around him, I knew he had crossed a line that I could no longer save him from. I barely saw him any more, as he was gone day and night, only returning once or twice a week and I had no idea what was occurring in his life. I called my dad and brothers and I left that night. It was the day I chose to not be a victim any longer.

5. How is your life better today because of what you went through?

Before him, I didn’t believe I had a voice in this world. The day I took back my power and chose to stand in my strength was the day I realized I not only had a voice, but I had the right to express it.

What are the answers to your five questions? 
You are stronger than you think.

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Organizing My Day

One of my followers on Wiselike asked me these questions and I wanted to share what was discussed here and get all your thoughts on the subject :)

Everyone has the same number of hours in a day, not everyone is able to use them effectively as you seem to. What advice can you give those who want to stay focused and accomplished more? How can you write a novel and a blog while handling the responsibilities of being a buyer without feeling overwhelmed or burned out?


Oh, I have my moments. I don't believe I would be human if I didn’t become overwhelmed or burned out at times. These are the things that have worked to help me stay focused:

1. I always have my "me" time. This could consist of 5 minutes of meditation, an hour of reading, or a half hour of a bubble bath, among many ideas. I have found if I do not find moments during the day to breath, and remember why I want success, I will fail before I even begin.

2. Organizing, by prioritizing my day, keeps me from being overwhelmed. I work as a Buyer Monday-Friday, during the day. When I return home, I focus on dinner, homework, or whatever my family may need. It is never a consistent or normal time, as most parents know, however I have adapted to rolling with the punches. I don't always have the chance to write everyday, but I make it a priority at least 4-6 times a week. Along with exercise and "me" time.

Advice on staying focused and accomplishing more... First, breath. It will never be perfect, and it will rarely turn out the way you planned in your head, but consistency is what creates a name. Keep going. Take your breaks, but never give up.

Organize and prioritize, not only your profession(s), but your home as well. A well organized home requires less upkeep and therefore a person will be able to focus more on the goals and plans they have set before them.

I leave my Author hat at home, when I’m a Buyer. Concentrating on two professions, at the same time, does not work for me. I have learned to focus on each of them, during their designated times. Although they filter into one another, at times, it is something I do not allow to happen often, and I stay on target by giving each my full attention, at their appropriate moments.


What do all my friends and fans think about managing their time? We all have crazy, chaotic lives... what do you all do to keep your life from imploding (or exploding)?