Thursday, November 5, 2015

Conversation With Crystal

Crystal Doty and I have known each other for enough time to call each other life long friends.  She has been an inspiration to me throughout the many years she has been in my life and today I get to introduce her to the rest of my world.  If you do not follow her on social media, I recommend you check her out.  She is a wealth of knowledge with a unique perspective on the world.

Enjoy!

1.       How would you describe yourself?

I would describe myself as a very deep, peaceful, sensitive, creative, and fun-loving woman who has been cultivated and strengthened through triumphs over tragedies and heartaches. I see the world very differently than most people I meet and I believe that is why people like to know me. I’ve always been a little quirky, out of the box, and different. I used to be ashamed of this, especially as a child. However, it seems that the more I’ve accepted my quirks and different perspectives, the more others have too.
  

2.       Who would win a fight, batman or superman?  Why?

I have always been an advocate for batman. He is human, he has weaknesses, and a dark side so he seems more relatable.  What makes him great is that he has tools- the belt, the car, the suit, etc. I relate his tools to the things we as humans need to attain in order to fight our own inner “bad guy”.  (Like self acceptance, compassion, and the willingness to let go and forgive.)The relationship between Batman and the Joker is often a story I use when I am coaching my clients to explain the relationship between their true selves and their “inner bad guy.” Superman is great, but he just isn’t authentically real in my mind. And to me, authenticity and rawness met with the right tools will always win.


3.       If you were an animated character who would you be and why?

The essence of Cinderella really speaks to my heart.  I have such a high admiration for her willingness to rise each morning in a difficult situation and see the good in life and those who hurt her.  She stays true to her essence and her nature to be kind, instead of letting the harsh tragedies of life to ruin her.  Humility, compassion, and dreaming- just a few things I would love to be known for. To me she represents never giving up, keeping your eye on your dreams and goals, and staying beautiful and filled with grace in the midst of ugliness. She is the epitome of true magic as she allows herself to be transformed into something even greater than her dream.  The story of Cinderella teaches two of my favorite life’s lessons: 1. If you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true. And 2. Have courage to be kind. For where there is kindness, there is goodness, and where there is goodness, there is magic.


4.       What are you passionate about?

I am a passionate person and so this question could take me in a thousand directions, however just to keep it short, in a nut shell I am passionate about transformation, growth, and the gifts that are received when you overcome. This is why I love what I do. Coaching people to open up to their gifts through overcoming their life’s tragedies or attaining a much dreamed of goal  really lights me up!


5.       What do you do for your career? 

I am a transformational life coach with a focus on business and spirituality. I have years of health and wellness experience under my belt as well.  I am also an angel intuitive which means that I can connect to angels to relay comforting, inspiring, and practical messages to you concerning any area of your life. I am the creator of Clarity is The Way and a 6 week mentor-ship designed to help you trust and strengthen your inherent intuitive abilities.  I’m a writer, and I do weekly motivational videos. People may think that business and self development are on opposite ends of the spectrum, however I have found that how you do one thing is how you do all things. If you want to be successful in any area of your life, you must be willing to dig deep to see where you’re sabotaging your success and enhance your ability to use your intuition to make powerful life changing decisions based on clarity. In my experience, most successful people are allowing themselves to be guided by their “gut feelings” even if it goes beyond the status quo. Moving through life without the use of intuition is like walking around with your eyes and ears closed. It becomes scary, and easy to make a wrong turn. Everyone has the ability to look ahead with their eyes, ears, and heart wide open and reap all of the benefits from doing so. I am someone who can assist you to open up, discover your life passions, and attain goals you may not have been able to before.


6.       How do you define success and how do you measure it?

To me, success is simply the feeling of going to bed each night feeling complete with the day. That means that I have accomplished what I set out to do, there is no unfinished business, only the things that are planned for tomorrow. There are no hard feelings, regrets, or fearful thoughts about the past, present, or future and there is a sense of comfort, ease, and that everything is taken care of. It is measured by the smile on my face, the depth of my laugh, the easy going-ness in my walk, the kindness and humor in my words, the strong circle of influence I am surrounded by in my life; my loving and supportive family and friends, my inspiring mentors, and the beautiful events I revel in on a daily basis.


7.       What song best describe your work ethic?

Honestly, I’d have to say Invincible by Kelly Clarkson. It takes me a lot to put myself out there as a “weirdo” angel intuitive and life coach, especially because many people have judged me over the years. My inner bad guy loves to tell me often “who are you to help others?”  I lived small for many years wearing medical scrubs and then a business suit that just didn’t fit because I was afraid of how powerful I could be. My actual work ethic has to do with being consistent, hustling every day, and showing up in my authenticity totally connected and clear. But it takes a lot of courage to do that. It really takes my inner badass to keep me on track! The words in that song really describe the courage and what I have had to overcome to do what I do every day.


8.       What is your ideal self?  What does it mean to be your highest self?

I have my Primary Aim posted on the wall next to where I work at home. It contains my 4 personal truths that when I practice them at every opportunity, I am my ideal self. They are, 1. Reverence for all of life. 2. Sincerity and honesty. 3. Service. 4. Gentleness and kindness to every to every living thing. My highest self is like the sun; Nothing owns me, my love brightens the world, I have plenty to give, and I never burn out.


9.       What is your purpose in life?

Two specific things stand out in my mind with this question. I believe that the purpose in my life is to learn forgiveness; real, hard-ass, on-my-knees, raw, true, heart forgiveness.  I have found that forgiveness sets me free so that I can be who I truly am. Which leads me to the second thing and that is to find who I am in the midst of this chaotic life and be it-Be it so bright that it allows others to do the same.


10.   Who are you?

So many things. But whether I’m being a mom, a lover, a friend, sister, daughter, coach, mentor, motivator, artist, cook, hippie, business woman, princess, queen, or beach bum I am sure of one thing- I am someone who wants to make a difference.


11.   What drives you?

The need to accomplish goals and feel complete really drives me. Regrets and unfinished business sucks. I feel driven when I think about the feeling of “I did it! What’s next!”


12.   If you had one week to live, what would you do?

I would take my family and animals up into the mountains and stay in a cabin. We would sit around the fire, hike, swim, eat yummy campfire food, play games, fish, and create those magical family moments I live for.


13.   If you could go back in time, what advice would you give your twenty year old self?

I was a very poor single mother when I was twenty and I had no idea who I was or what I was doing. I would tell her that she is bigger than she realizes and to focus on saving herself instead of trying to find others to save her. I would tell her to work hard, focus more on her gifts, career, and child, and not so much on guys ha ha.


14.   What advice would you give your eight year old self?

I would tell her that the people she loves and trusts are going to abandon her, misunderstand and judge her, and that she will have many nights even as a young girl feeling alone, scared, and sad. But that in those moments, if she just looks hard enough, she’ll find herself; her amazing, bright, intelligent, strong self.  I would tell her not to take others actions personally, that one day she will be more beautiful and inspiring than Cinderella and to just hold tight, don’t hate, and stay true to herself and her dreams.


15.   What Hogwarts house would you belong to?  Gryffindor, Slytherin, Hufflepuff or Ravenclaw?  Why?

Definitely Gryffindor because I’m a good guy and I’d probably geek out with Herminie.


16.   Who inspired you the most?

Without a doubt, Doreen Virtue. I feel that I have so much in common with her, especially when it comes to her personal life. She too has been a single mother who has been knocked around by life. But she is so amazing, and she never quits! I have learned more from her about my trade, as well as just how to be a better person than from anyone. For 18 years I have aspired to be like her. I’ve read every single one of her books, I have all of her card decks, and I’ve attended her classes both in person and online. It’s easy to say I’m her biggest fan, and for good reason. She is a modern day badass business woman saint who has always stayed graceful through life’s ups and downs.  No matter what I’m going through, good or bad, she’s just always there.  As a side note, I also feel very inspired by Jackie O Kennedy and Princess Diana for the same reasons that they kept their grace and kindness under extreme pressure.


17.   How have you grown and improved this year?

2015 has been a pretty monumental year for me actually. I feel like I finally put my big girl pants on, ha ha.  In a nutshell, I fell in love at the end of last year and that relationship has blossomed into being one of the strongest forces in my life. Isaiah has been a rock for me and my kids, and because of who he is, he’s helped us all become more consistent, driven, and out of drama. I also did a huge turn around with the people I decided to surround myself with. My circle of influence is really incredible, and I have widened it by founding the Utah Women Supporting Women Network.  It’s a group of other women entrepreneurs who meet once a month to support and offer success wisdom.  Most recently, I have been teaching a lot of classes about angels and I have launched areas of my business in ways I have only dreamed of.  I’m finding that I’m finally doing all the things I said I’d do “some day.”  I decided to go back to school and get certified as a life coach, and that has been amazing too. That’s just a small portion of how I’ve grown and improved this year, my entire life has taken a turn for the best and of course that all had to do with improving myself and finally becoming focused on the right stuff!


18.   In what ways do you hope to grow and improve this next year?

My personal life is amazing, my health and body are rocking, I’m on the path towards being at the top of career and I expect that next year will just be a continuation of that!


19.   If you could sing one song on American Idol, what would it be and why?

I wrote a song on the piano, and I think it’s the only song I sing well. Ha ha.  I would definitely sing that!


20.   When you die, what will your eulogy be?

There are not many things that hurt worse than to have someone die of whom you still have unfinished business with. It is the words that were unsaid, the things that go undone that make the sharpness of mourning unbearable. So, I really hope that somewhere in my eulogy is the energy that I have forgiven and that I feel complete with everyone in my life.  I hope that those I have hurt forgive me too, more for their sake than mine. I hope there is talk about angels, and that I fully intend to stand with them in service to the world and to my loved ones from the other side.  Then, I hope it’s more like a party where people can hang out with my ashes and celebrate our lives and the greatness we brought to each other.


21.   What would you like to tell the world in 300 words or less?

I want to tell the world to be stronger; stronger than the media, stronger than religion, stronger than government, stronger than your own family if you have to. Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Be strong enough to talk about what’s good, rather than to dwell on what’s bad. Be strong enough to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are for your own. Be strong enough to forget the mistakes made in the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Be strong enough to just let go, trust, and forgive. Be strong enough to avoid the naysayers and be who you want to be regardless of what “they” will say.  Be stronger than your addictions, distractions, and excuses. Be strong enough to give so much time improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others. I want to tell the world that no matter what is going on, no matter how weak, dark, poor, broken, hungry, unloved, and rundown you may feel that if you look hard enough you will find YOU and that you are too large for worry, to noble for anger, too loving for fear, and too happy to allow the presence of drama. When you find you- you’ll find the solutions to your everything! Every day, just be stronger.


22.   Please tell us where we can connect with you, i.e. social media, websites, blogs, etc.


You can find me at www.clarityistheway.com and from there you can connect to all of my social media, blog, classes, 1 on 1 session, mentor-ship, and more.

 

No comments:

Post a Comment